What is pegging?
The term pegging is used when a woman
puts on a harness and strap on dildo and uses it to penetrate her male
partner in his anus. Essentially reversing the usual roles and allowing
the female to be the giver for a change.
Lets address the elephant in the room
(the elephant created by insecurities within society in order to suck
the fun out of everything) Enjoying being pegged DOES NOT mean you are
gay. For some reason the stigma of being homosexual has stuck to any and
all anal play when it comes to men. This is not true whatsoever.
Enjoying anal play has nothing to do with your sexuality and everything
to do with pleasure!
So what might make someone want to peg
or be pegged? For women, its often the feeling of dominance or power
over their man that will lead them to want to peg him. And for men
wanting to be dominated might be a big reason but the pleasure alone is
more than a good enough reason to want to be pegged!
Why does being pegged feel so good?
Besides the fact that anal stimulation
in general can be very pleasurable for some, for men pegging can
stimulate the prostate which has often been referred to as the male
g-spot because of how pleasurable it can feel when massaged. The
prostate is a walnut sized gland located on the inside of the anus about
two-three inches inside on the front side of the body. When getting
pegged, the strap on dildo will rub over the prostate with each stroke.
Preparation is Key!
The first way to prepare for a pegging session, would be mental preparation.
For the receiver this would mean to relax your body and your mind. If
you are in your head telling yourself that pegging will hurt... then
guess what? It will hurt. If you tell yourself that this will be
pleasurable if you relax, stay calm, and breathe, you are more likely to
enjoy being pegged. Both your partner and yourself should be prepared as well at the thought of coming into contact with fecal matter.
Obviously you're entering an area where fecal matter may be present
which in turn means that you may find trace amounts when engaging in any
type of anal play. The receiver should try to use the restroom before
anal play if they are very worried about coming into contact with poo!
The next step would be to choose your lubricant.
Now pay attention to this next part
because it is extremely important: There is NO such thing as too much
lubricant! Especially for anal play since the anus is not self
lubricating. Trying any sort of anal play without proper lubrication can
result in pain, discomfort, and even injury. At Intimates Boutique, we
highly recommend hybrid lubricants over silicone or water based lubes
for pegging. Why? Water based lubes tend to dry up quickly and leave a
tacky residue on the skin. Obviously its super inconvenient to have to
stop every few minutes to apply more lube. Silicone lubes are great for
anal play! However silicone lubricants are not toy safe unless you have a
toy that is metal or glass. So a hybrid lubricant is a happy medium
between the two. Often hybrid lubricants are a mix of water based and a
minuscule amount of silicone, but usually its such a small percentage of
silicone that it doesn't harm your toys the way a pure silicone
lubricant would. Below are some of our best selling hybrid lubricants:
Harnesses/Strap-on Dildos
Choosing which harness and strap on dildo you want to use is something that should be done together. Usually the harness is chosen by the giver and the strap-on dildo is chosen by the receiver. When choosing your harness, make sure you choose one that is adjustable so you can be positive that it fits you comfortably in all the right places. Getting one too big won't allow for good penetration and getting one too small will be uncomfortable to keep on. The next thing to think about would be material that the harness is made out of. A harsh material can rub you the wrong way while being used and leave itchiness, marks or material burns on your skin. Another add on you may want to look for when choosing a harness is pocket for a vibrating bullet. This can provide the harness wearer with pleasure as the bullet will be held right against their genitals. Take a look at our most popular ones here:
Velvet Knit Adjustable Pink Harness w/ Pocket
Em.Ex Active Harness Wear by Sportsheets
Choosing your strap-on dildo can
be a little longer of a process as you want to make sure you are
choosing the right size, shape and material for you and its not
something you can just try on! When thinking about shape, as a beginner,
it may be a little easier to get something that doesn't have too much
texture or many ridges. A slight curve can be great for pegging as it'll
hit the prostate a bit easier. The size is something you have to give a
lot of thought to. my recommendation is to always start off with
something smaller rather than bigger. Its better to work your way up
slowly than start with something that's way too big and end up hurting
yourself. If you can insert your finger or your partner's finger with
ease then try to find something the size of a finger or slightly larger.
If a finger is still causing a bit of discomfort try to go for
something a little bit smaller. Below are some of our best selling
dildos for pegging:
Pro Tip: Just because you see a certain size dildo in a
pegging set, does not mean it is the right size for YOU. Take a look at
some of these all in one pegging sets:
Material for your strap-on dildo is also important. #1
is choosing a hygienic, non porous material for your dildo as it will be
used anally which will introduce it to fecal matter/bacteria. A
silicone dildo is highly recommended for pegging. You can use a jelly,
cyberskin, TPE, or TPR material however you may experience a bit more
drag with those materials vs a silicone dildo, which can cause a bit of
discomfort depending on the person.
Pro Tip: Use a condom on your dildos. It will give you piece of mind with extra cleanliness & it will help them last longer as well.
Let's Talk About Numbing Agents:
When it comes to anal
desensitizing/numbing agents, proceed with caution. Remember that they
will help numb any discomfort you may have during anal penetration but
that may not always be a good thing. If you can't feel pain or
discomfort during anal, you may not know if something is too much and
could end up with serious injury like tearing the anus. Use a bit of
numbing cream/gel/lube at a time and start slow. If something doesn't
feel right, ALWAYS stop.
Another way to prepare before being pegged, would be foreplay!
In my personal opinion, foreplay is a MUST in every sexual scenario you
might find yourself in. Foreplay helps your body relax, arouses you and
sets you in the right state of mind for pleasure. It can also serve as a
distraction from something you might feel a bit nervous about, such as
being pegged.
Pro tip: Use a small vibrating anal toy to perform a
rim job or light penetration before pegging. The vibration will not only
help your muscles in that area relax, but it'll feel good as well!
C O M M U N I C A T E
And I cannot stress this enough.. Communicate!
It is so important that both parties express their feelings when it
comes to partaking in any sexual activity together. Each partner should
be fully aware of how their partner is feeling at all times. Before
engaging in any type of sexual activity, communicate your limits to each
other. so there is less chance of anyone pushing the others limits to
an uncomfortable point. All parties involved must be open minded and
feel heard so that no one ends up feeling overwhelmed or pushed past
their limits. And the communication should not stop at just before the
sexual activity. Talk to each other during the process... the giver
should be asking the receiver questions like, "Is this okay" "Do you
feel alright" whereas the receiver can be saying things like "Slow down"
"Harder" or whatever they feel like in that moment. Its important to
ask the giver how they feel as well as it may be overwhelming for some
to switch roles in that way. It can be very easy to feel disconnected
from your partner after trying something new and not having a
conversation about it. The last part of communication would be
communication after the activity during the recovery time.
Make sure to ask the important questions:
-How was that for you?
-Was there anything you didn't like/did like?
-How are you feeling right now?
These questions should be asked by both
the giver AND the receiver to make sure everyone is taken care of and
feels good about the sex they were just a part of.
Most Important Pro Tip:
Have fun and enjoy this new experience
with your partner. Let it bring you closer together and open your mind
to new sexual adventures since its an extremely important and healthy
part of life.
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